| VENTING &$&#*#(@& |
| 2007-03-08 |
Ok this is a vent post. Because I hate being a single mother. I have no real support. My mom always says she is there for me, but whenever I ask for her help it's always an excuse not to help. So now I know I can't count on her. It all started this morning because everyone knows that I need the extra money to save up for my apt. Fanta (my boss) asked if I could work 1-9pm. The only thing is is that I didn't have anyone to pick up TJ from school. So I was going to ask the lady at the daycare if she can stay later until my mom comes to pick him up around 6 or 630. I never got in contact with the lady until I was on my way home (which was too late). Now two months ago my mom was saying "Yeah Hector (My step dad) can pick him up from school if you work late, we are here for you." Now the time has come and shes acting all stupid like she don't have my back. I think she wants me to live with her the rest of my life. WTF Man! If this keeps up I don't have a choice but to move back down to Georgia with my dad. Where I know I can do my best to make a life for me and my son. Up here I have to base my schedule around my moms which leave nothing for me to work with. I go and tell jobs that I can't work this day and that day and they will fire me or not even give me the job. So what should I do? So when I got home I told her all this and she just stayed quiet. Over the phone she had all this sh*t to say but when I was there she didn't say anything. So like I said I'm not asking her anymore when TJ is concerned. I know I'm thinking evil right now but people don't realise when they have the time with someone they take it for granted. When I leave Jersey or not even leave Jersey. When I get my own place and move into my own she is going to want to spend time with TJ. Why do people act like that??? I know this is like a venting, questions blog. LOL I got a letter the other day from a friend in jail and he's not doing so good. He said that he sent two cops to the hospital. So he was put in a part of the prison where they send the prisoners that do bad sh*t. Oh well. That's for him and his family to work out. I can't do anything but write and hope that he is ok with the situation. He's in jail for murder...25 to life. There is no getting around that and now he sent two cops to the hospital. Oh he's rotting in jail. I know that sounds mean but that's the truth of the matter. Well in the end. I still got to pick up extra hours. Tomorrow on my day off I work for like 3 and a half hours. From 1:30 to 5. So As always the last minute always works out for me after I stress for nothing. Maybe I should try not stressin. But I'll keep you posted. |
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Ever Expanding
Maybe you could start your own day care. You know blow out the competition with a better price. That way you are your own boss, have your hours and take care of your child all at the same time. Now that would fix your Mom.
LOL
Celestia
All I can say is "I relate." My mom always tells me she'll help out, but the times I ask (which were few) were always met with a resounding "no."
I cannot imagine not helping my child. I'd do whatever I could. I mean after all, that grandchild is flesh of my flesh.
It is heartbreaking how our families can disappoint and hurt us so much. Though it's rough, it's what makes us hardcore women, Shante'. :)
Love and am thinking about you....
c.
Wedge
That's a lot to deal with! I know that some places have single mothers groups and they've got a bunch of resources, maybe there's one in your area? They might know of a daycare that's open later.
Hardcore_Pyro
Ultimately what ever decission you make will effect you and your child. The question is, what is the best thing that I can do for my child. It may be moving or finding a job that meets both your demands as well as the childs. If you do not have the family support stucture at home then what other options do you have. This is a whole new Oprah and I hope that it works out for you.
scribbles
Venting questions blog. Very funny.
I think you need a clipboard and write down in front of your Mom what she says. Then repeat back what she says to you, to clarify and reflect the words. This will make her listen better and get you organized.
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